Need of happiness!

How many times have we been told not to cry because that is something negative people do; to remain positive, to be always happy?
 You get one life and you need to live it to fullest.
Agreed, but disagreed.

Happiness is a choice but isn’t a compulsion. It is overwhelmingly insensitive to be biased towards one set of emotions and slander the other.
Life isn’t always the joyful ride we desire it to be. Nothing better than to challenge the struggles with a positive attitude but how rational is it to demand a person to react in the same manner in every situation.

Sometimes things do get out of control, we get screwed up and tougher times take a toll over our mental state. And it is only human for us to kneel down, to crave for few moments of peace.
But it can’t be attained so as long as we are striving to score a perfect day. Right in the morning, our head is poured with deluge of positive quotes telling us that a miracle is waiting right around the corner.  By raising our expectations, we set ourselves up for disappointment.

Our culture is all about acquiring new competencies; the mentality of ‘we’re never good enough’ is very powerful. But absence of perfection doesn’t constitute failure.
We’re being told to be curious, energetic and positive; to constantly strive forward. There’s nothing wrong in that, but what irks me is the way society patronizes the complacency and patience and contentment.

The constant pressure to remain positive has an underlying negative impact. Psychologically, we are tuned to be satisfied when we’re doing the right things, and now as society has declared being happy as to be the correct thing to do, on days we end up feeling like a failure only because we’re not happy.
It is completely fine to be sad sometimes.
We’ve been instilled with illusionary images of a complete life. It doesn’t involve being always happy and at no cost it involves being perfect. You can be flawed and definitely need not acquire all righteous traits. In times of despair, you have every right to feel sad just don’t let it become an excuse to halt you growth.
Improve yourself, try to be a better version but not with anxiety or pressure instead with a friendly curiosity.

Do develop fondness for sunshine, but learn to accept, even enjoy the darkness of nights. Life’s incomplete without both, together they complete the cycle of day.